Now that back to school season is in the air, I've been reminiscing about my collegiate days. The structured schedules, late-night fraternizing, class design projects, the list goes on. It wasn't until my junior or senior year when a few friends took me thrift shopping for the first time and I discovered my first vintage blazerRead More
So, let me tell you...
Other than the latest visual update, I'm sure you've noticed that things just aren't the same here on the blog. The posts aren't nearly as consistent as they used to be, solely because I've been going through some tough times in my personal life and trying to figure out how to manage all of the intricacies and stay motivated/inspired has been challenging, to say the least. It has kind of put a damper on my spirit and energy. However, recently, I've had some time to really think about what I want to do moving forward versus what I was doing and noticing that the two just weren't aligned. I started Honey In My Heels to inspire and be inspired and somewhere along the way I lost that focus and allowed other people's words and perspectives to cause me to stray away from what I believe the current purpose of HIMH to be. Also, looking to the right and to the left for "motivation" no longer motivated me. I began to compare myself and the accomplishments that I've achieved thus far and started feeling like they were less than. But the true question is, less than what? Less than my perception of what someone else seems to have accomplished? The tricky thing about being so heavily involved in social media and trying to grow a platform is that it is very easy to compare ourselves and our circumstances to what we see - not always remembering that what we see is just a depiction of a "life worth seeing." Leading me to the quote that should be tatted on everyone's forehead, "comparison is the thief of all joy." And it's so true, it's talked about quite often about our current society and how it's so easy to get caught up in the likes and the follows. But moving forward, I want to forget about all of that and get back to blogging and sharing for the sheer passion and purpose. All the while getting more real and honest with you all in hopes to truly inspire at least one person who stumbles upon HIMH. But with that comes a major fear of really putting myself out there. I think the thing that scares me the most is the vulnerability. But I hope that through this it will inspire someone else to take a leap of faith and put themselves "out there" and move past the what ifs and the negative thoughts that we tell ourselves as to why we shouldn't do what scares us. So to kick off this new movement and the opportunity to share my truths with you all I'm sharing a few quotes that have hit home for me at this time in my life.
In the comments below, I'd love to know if you have a favorite quote or quotes. Also, if this post inspires you to join me in this new mission to get more real and stop holding back (in all aspects of our lives), I'd love to know! Leave a comment so that we can motivate each other in this endeavor!
Much love and thank you for reading!
"God placed the best things in life on the other side of terror. On the other side of your maximum fear are all of the best things in life." - Will Smith
“Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.” -Brene Brown
“To share your weakness is to make yourself vulnerable; to make yourself vulnerable is to show your strength.” - Criss Jami
So, let me tell you...
You already know about my obsession with off the shoulder things - along with my affinity to turn things into the ever evolving trend. Well, this little black wrap dress was no exception. Side note, this is my first wrap dress and I feel like I'm on my way to really adulting right. haha The wrap dress is such a flattering fit for practically every shape. It's an easy throw on and go look. This particular wrap dress is from Banana Republic. I love the floaty feels this design gives off with the flounced hem and the flutter sleeves. I don't think it was intended to be worn off the shoulder, but once I tried it, there was no going back that day. I was in a bit of a sexy but caj kind of mood, so paired this dress with my favorite loafers at the moment (additional side note, these shoes also come in a slingback design... tempting).
I manipulated the wrap just a bit to create more of a split. Also, I tucked the original belt strings underneath my belt so that they couldn't be seen.
For a pop of color I used one of my grandmother's old belts. It's one of my favorite belts of hers. I've always loved the woven print. It has that 70s ish vibe to it that I can't get enough of.
The little black dress that will be with me for seasons to come.
So, let me tell you...
I've had this top since I was about 16, I wore it for the first time when I went to a Chris Brown concert. I just knew he was going to pick me out from the crowd. All hail to youthful eagerness. Haha. Back to this wrap top, it is one of those pieces that I just can't bear to throw away, until I find something to replace it with. Even then, I'm not fully committed to letting it go, mainly for sentimental reasons. I love the simplicity of it, yet it still looks slightly dressed up. I've worn it time and time again, but this was the first time that I decided to wear it off the shoulders. Good thing my 16-year-old self didn't think of this way back then - I probably wouldn't have been able to leave the house.
It was a relaxing Saturday, strolling through the city. I kept the colors of this look light and neutral. Finishing off the outfit with a pair of old snakeskin wedges that I officially wore down to the sole (RIP platform wedges, you will be missed).
I've been wearing this little brown suede bag from Banana Republic non-stop